Good Family Recipe


Contributing Writer
Vicki McGraw

Oh my gosh, it is June already! Where did May go? Time flies ever so quickly, it seems to vanish in a blink of the eye. I remember being a child waiting for summer vacation…the carefree days we enjoyed…time just lingered during those last few weeks of school. Now, as an adult with endless responsibilities, there are never enough hours in each day. As I watch my kids and their friends enjoying their ever-expanding freedom and journey into adulthood, I can’t help but think back to the “simpler days” of their childhood. Now is the time for you, dear reader, to go grab a cup of coffee and get ready to reminisce with me a little…
I remember their days of preschool. I was a stay-at-home mom in a one car family; my parents would shuttle the boys back and forth to their morning sessions. It was my short period of time on those Monday, Wednesday and Friday mornings to get things done. I could clean the house without my little hurricanes following behind me. I could bake a batch of cookies and have them cool before they were devoured! I could make a phone call without being interrupted! It was quiet…for a little bit.
By the time both of my boys were in kindergarten, I had opened my business. For the past fifteen (!!!) years, it has been a juggling game of meeting my deadlines and delivery schedules and being available to drop them off and pick them up at school, sports practices, and assorted other activities. None of this would have been possible without the help and support of my parents…they retired at just the right time! They have been there to offer unlimited support, from child care and shuttling to offering two very strong shoulders to hug. Talk about a labor of love…!
And here we are today. My babies are have reached adulthood (Todd) or about to reach it (Mark). They have cars and school and jobs…they are blossoming into the fine young men I have always prayed they would be. And yet I still am their Mom. I still ask where they are going, who they will be with, and when they will be home…they still live under my roof, so they must play by my rules. I want them home for dinner, I like to hear about how their day was. I want to know they are getting their work done. I want to know that they are doing the “right thing”, not misbehaving!
Oh my gosh, I’ve turned into MY MOTHER!!!! I swore I would never do that! And yet, by following her wonderful example, I find myself repeating the many words she told me. “You are known by those you associate with.” “I DO have eyes in the back of my head!” “Because I said so!” (Oh, how I cringed the first time THAT came out of my mouth!) But do you know what? My boys are good kids, and while I will always worry about them when they aren’t within my direct line of vision, I know that they have been raised in a family that shows their love by being aware and holding them responsible for their actions. So I ask questions…that is in my job description!!
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Recipe for a Happy Family

• Loving Parents
• A couple of Kids (as many as you wish)
• A Big dog (optional)
• Grandparents (if available)

Start with the loving parents…use an equal amount of control and freedom, don’t be afraid to add extra love; it will only make the mix richer.

Add kids as desired; close together so they are playmates or farther apart so they learn to be independent of one another.

Nothing teaches responsibility like a pet…taking care of the needs of another living being, be it a dog, cat, fish or any other creature is a great experience. Having to feed and care for something other than yourself teaches many life lessons.

Grandparents are one of the best assets, when available. They have done the “parent-thing”, now they can relax, have fun, spoil them a bit, then give the kids back at the end of the day!

Mix all of the ingredients, sprinkle with a little extra love and enjoy!