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Co-Dependency Anonymous (CoDA)
Co-Dependency Anonymous (CoDA) is a 12 step program of men and women whose common purpose is recovery from codependence and the development and maintenance of healthy relationships. A CoDA group is now available in Jamestown and is held each Wednesday at 7:30 pm at the First Lutheran Church, 120 Chandler Street in Jamestown (use the Center Street entrance). It is an open meeting and all are welcome.
Codependence is a deeply-rooted, compulsive behavior. It stems from a person’s sometimes moderately, sometimes extremely dysfunctional family systems. A codependent person attempts to use others as his/her sole source of identify, value, well-being, and as a way of trying to restore emotional losses.
Codependent individuals typically
- Assume responsibility for other people’s feelings.
- Are not aware of how they feel and cannot identify their feelings.
- Tend to minimize, alter, or even deny the truth about how they feel.
- Tend to fear or worry about how others may respond to their feelings.
- Bolster their self-esteem by trying to solve other people’s problems.
- Look to other people to determine what to do, say or feel.
- Focus their attention on pleasing another person.
- Have difficulty acknowledging good things about themselves.
- Tend to judge everything they say or do harshly, by someone else’s standards.
- Have difficulty informing and/or maintaining close relationships with others.
- Have to feel needed in order to have a relationship with others.
- Do not know or believe that asking for help is both OK and normal.
For further information about the meeting, call 485-3837.